Going from dating to a relationship
Differences are not noticed or are dismissed with thoughts like “not a big deal” or “she will change”.Couples generally do not have much conflict at this stage of the cycle as each is really trying hard to impress the other person.Towards the end of this stage, and hopefully at other times throughout it, it is not unusual for questions of “is this the right person for me” to emerge.For women especially there may also be a desire to figure out where the relationship is headed.
Differences are normal and couples will learn about themselves and their relationship as they note how they handle these differences with each other.There should be a relationship with each other’s family and friends.Open and honest conversations should be happening as couples plan their present and future together.Some of those perpetual issues or differences such as free-spending or frugal, neat and orderly or sloppy and disorganized, interested in lots of time together or more involved in outside activities begin to emerge.
At this stage of the relationship, couples will take note of the differences and may even begin to complain or attempt to problem-solve.
“ Women have a tendency to ask this question before men, even though both may be wondering about the answer to this question.